Seek first to understand, then be understood!

   The statement above is the fifth habit in Stephen Covey’s book, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.” I read this book back in the 80’s and the wisdom of those words became forever embedded into my heart. These powerful seven words, if implemented into your life can change the course of events in the lives around you as well as yours.
   I am convinced if we listen more and talk less we will become more effective in every area of our life. Today everyone has an opinion and few actually listen. They may be silent while you speak, however, chances are what they are doing is creating their response to what you are saying.  Actually listening indicates you are truly “seeking to understand.”
   I heard a young man speak yesterday about how the widening gap between cultures could be greatly narrowed if we simply took the time to “know the history of a different culture than our own.” What a profound idea!
    Consider both of these statements. Whether the differences pertain to gender, ethnicity, socio-economic levels, age, education, spiritual beliefs, or a host of other differences, these two simple yet powerful statements could open the door to understanding and healing.
    It all begins within! How much do you know about your family history? And, how far back can you trace your lineage? When was the last time you spoke to your parents or grandparents about what life was like for them when they grew up?
    There are tons of wonderfully powerful and informative books on every topic imaginable, perhaps a book has been “calling to you” that could shed light on your family lineage, another culture’s history, or some topics you would like to know more about. Maybe there’s a novel you picked up because you liked the title and it’s still sitting on your shelf, patiently waiting. My shelf currently has several such books!
    With that in mind, the idea was birthed to create a book discussion group to satisfy two needs: First, have a reason to pull one of the books off my shelf, and secondly, to connect with other people with similar passions for learning, understanding and/or simply being entertained. We are offering a monthly Book Review via Zoom the second Tuesday of each month. Our first session is Tuesday, February 9 from 6:30-7:30p.m. If you would like to participate, email me: vkwspirit@gmail.com by Monday, February 8. A zoom meeting will be scheduled and the link will be sent to whoever shows an interest.
   Since this is short notice, if you are unable to attend this month, be assured you are welcome to other monthly Book Reviews. Those dates are listed on the Events link on our website: www.headtothearttalks.com  Let’s get reading!