This morning my thoughts move to a deeper understanding of people. As I have said many times, I find people absolutely fascinating! After all my years observing people I still find them quite a mystery. What makes some people so thoughtful and considerate of others, seeking to understand different cultures and lifestyles? While others seem to view themselves as the center of the universe wondering what’s wrong with those that move through life differently. It is a perplexing situation that moves my head into action to help my heart understand.
It seems to me every person has a sacred point of view in life that is uniquely their own. This point of view is created from each individual’s experiences from the time they come into this world. This point of view belongs to them and them only. Regardless whether a person has siblings being raised by the same parents there is still a different perspective for each child. I wonder why that is?
What I conclude is such questions are a part of the magic in life. They are questions not to be completely understood, rather, simply to observe and respect. And while there are certainly behaviors I would not choose to exhibit in my life, nor do I respect from my sacred point of view, I do respect it is that person’s right to choose how they want to live their life.
What I also understand is the individuals, or groups of individuals, that exhibit what I view as disrespect and immoral behaviors are not the sort of people I choose to spend time around. To me, it is sort of like putting you hand on a stove that is hot. If you have adjusted the burner to a lower temperature and it stays on high heat and you get burned, why would you put your hand on it again? So, rather then kick the stove, tell everyone what a terrible stove it is, whine and complain about it, I would choose to just get a different stove.
In essence, I respect that being in this world means to have “free will,” to live, love, behave as we choose. And so, in order to not judge others and create more negativity and chaos in my little corner of the world, I simply choose to “hang out” with those that have a like-minded attitude. That is to say, individuals that genuinely care about being of service to the world by asking, “how can I be of assistance?” Surely if enough of us do that, those that see themselves as the center of the universe will have their hearts moved by the kindness of someone asking such a question. That is one of my hopes from my sacred point of view anyway . . . and yours?
This Friday the 13th seems a good time to conclude the Wicked series ... at least for now. Contemplating the topic has certainly brought clarity to a subject I used to run from. I suppose it was because of my upbringing. As a child I was not allowed to talk negatively about anything. My siblings and I were encouraged to look for the good in people. If we met people that were "mean spirited" we were told to avoid them like the plague and simply pray for them.
I am grateful for those teachings from the standpoint they provided clear boundaries as to what areas were "safe" to explore and which could lead to ... well, the forbidden fruit. Yes, that is correct, I was taught that anything that was not of God was dark, negative and of satan. And, of course, since everyone was "born in sin," because of Adam and Eve's choices, we could not be trusted to veer away from the teachings we were given. Hence, if we attempt to think for ourselves, we would certainly choose the forbidden fruit. In essence, the forbidden fruit is thinking for oneself .... hmm, Jesus, the son of God, certainly did not teach that.
Blogging about the term Wicked, has allowed me the opportunity to see the fear that surrounds things outside the circle of teachings instilled by our immediate families. I do not have fear about much of anything these days, instead I have respect for those things that may cause my stomach to flip, my heart to pound, and my mouth to be dry. I have a greater understanding of how my body alerts me to the unknown areas that are outside my immediate "comfort zone," and assist me paying attention to what is around me.
The story, "Honoring Our Instincts" from the book, Head to Heart Talks, gives an even clearer picture of the gifts our body provides to help us stay free from harm. Rather then simply rely on the voices in our head that is suspicious of anything new, different, out of the norm or foreign to what it knows, the conversation will go all over the place imaging the worst possible scenarios. Of course, our head does this to keep us safe; however, it is suspicious of absolutely everything! It is our body that provides a more accurate means by which to discern what might be a possible adventure from which we may learn something new or, indeed, something to steer clear of. Either way, the gifts provided by our bodies, if we simply pay attention, are truly amazing.
And so, I conclude this entry with something I read this morning in one of my daily devotionals, "Remember, nothing is evil, lest thinking make it so" (Wm Shakespeare) I choose to know that everything put in front of me is for my personal growth; and, that whatever it is will in some way expand my understanding and compassion for things I didn't know, I didn't know.
In a world where "right" and "wrong" seem to be left to personal interpretations, it can often become difficult to determine fair and just actions for certain behaviors. This Clan Mother, Weighs the Truth, offers a beautiful story about logical and natural consequences for a person's behavior. I find her wisdom heartwarming and hopeful. As do all the Clan Mothers, Weighs the Truth offers a simple and natural way to understand Divine Law. I am confident you will find some truths that will touch your heart.
Shortly after my first year of retirement I received an email from Neale Donald Walsch about a program he was supporting for "wanna be" writers. Something in my heart told me to give it a whirl, so I paid my money and began the program. I had many things on my heart that I wanted to share; however, I had no idea the form would be that of an old woman that lived in the woods. How a marvelous experience. All the books on writing described the "creative flow" that a person had to discover in order to actually produce a book, and I found it!
I discovered that flow when we were given instructions that only permitted us to have 36 pages a specific size. In order to condense what I had written, the birth of the old woman emerged. People who had a concern, or something they were confronting in their life would make the trip to her cabin and ask her only one question. From the question the old woman would tell a story that settled into the person's heart. Of course, as life is, nothing is resolved in a short period of time; however, change begins with an awareness. That is what the story does to those that journey to the old woman's cabin. Then the visitor has to find the warrior's courage within to to move forward when that awareness is realized.
Check out the Mini book tab for the Introduction and Story one. It will provide you with a taste of what the full size book, "Head to Heart Talks: Rediscovering Your Authentic Self," is all about. In essence, the book series is a compilation of stories within stories.
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Vicky Kelm Williams
I find people absolutely fascinating!